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Shut Up and Listen – Indonesian Version

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Hab 1

Florence Littauer, penulis buku laris – Personality Plus, membahas tentang jenis kepribadian manusia dalam bukunya: Koleris (dominan), Melankolis (jeli), Sanguin (Intim) dan Phlegmatis (Stabil). Dari empat tipe kepribadian ini, pemarah dan Sanguin dianggap ekstrovert sementara Melankolis dan Phlegmatis introvert. Ada keuntungan dan kerugian dari setiap tipe kepribadian dan masing-masing tipe kepribadian dapat tumbuh dan menjadi pemimpin besar. Sementara ekstrovert memiliki keuntungan menjadi vokal dan mampu mengekspresikan dan mengkomunikasikan ide-ide dan keyakinan mereka, kadang-kadang mereka gagal di bidang mendengarkan.

Dalam kitabnya, Habakuk menulis mengenai pentingnya pemimpin untuk menjadi pendengar yang baik. Pada 4 ayat pertama bukunya, Habakuk berseru kepada Allah untuk menjawab pertanyaan-pertanyaannya. Dia meminta Tuhan untuk menanggapi ketidakadilan, kekerasan dan penyimpangan dari bangsanya, Yehuda. Ketika akhirnya Allah menanggapi, Dia memberikan jawaban kurang menyenangkan bagi Habakuk, Allah akan menggunakan Babel, bangsa yang lebih bebal dari Yehuda untuk menghukum bangsa ini dan untuk memulihkan ketidakadilan di antara orang Yahudi. Meskipun hal ini tidak masuk akal untuk Habakuk, ia terus mendengarkan Allah dan akhirnya memahami bahwa para pemimpin mendapatkan hak mereka untuk berbicara dengan mendengarkan. Habakuk akhirnya mengerti alasan mengapa Tuhan melakukan apa yang akan Dia lakukan.

Kita sebagai seorang pemimpin harus belajar untuk mendengarkan sebelum kita berbicara sehingga kita bisa mendapatkan hak kita untuk didengar orang lain. Pemimpin yang menolak untuk mendengarkan seiring berjalannya waktu akhirnya akan kehilangan pengaruh mereka di antara para pengikut mereka. Dengan mendengarkan, pemimpin memperoleh jauh lebih banyak dari haknya untuk berbicara
1. Mereka mendapatkan wawasan tentang orang-orang
2. Mereka terhubung dengan orang yg berbicara
3. Mereka mendapatkan hak mereka untuk berbicara
4. Mereka menjadi relevan
5. Mereka memahami kunci untuk menyentuh hati pembicara
6. Mereka mengidentifikasi diri mereka dengan pembicara
7. Mereka mendapatkan otoritas
8. Mereka belajar.

Tuhan memberi setiap orang dari kita satu mulut dan dua telinga secara sengaja, Dia ingin kita lebih banyak mendengar daripada berbicara. Ingat: Ketika Anda berbicara, apa pun yang Anda katakan tidak akan mengajarkan Anda apa-apa. Hanya ketika Anda mendengarkan – kepada Allah dan kepada orang lain – anda akan mendapatkan pemahaman

Terpujilah nama Tuhan Yesus Kristus, Amin!

Shut Up and Listen!

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Hab 1

Florence Littauer, author of bestselling book – Personality Plus, discussed about types of personality of human in her book: Choleric (Dominant), Melancholy (Observant), Sanguine (Intimate) and Phlegmatic (Stable). Out of these four personality types, Choleric and Sanguine are considered to be extrovert while Melancholy and Phlegmatic are introvert. There are merits and demerits of every personality types and each personality type can grow and become great leader. While the extrovert has the advantages of being outspoken and able to express and communicate their ideas and beliefs, sometimes they fail in the area of listening.

Habakkuk wrote in his book the importance of leaders to be good listeners. In the first 4 verses of his book, the prophet cries out for God to answer his questions. He begs God to respond to the injustice, the violence and the perversion of his nation, Judah. When God finally respond, He give a distateful answer to Habakkuk, He will use Babylonians, a nation more unjust than Judah to punish her and to correct injustice among Jews. Although this doesn’t make sense to Habakkuk, he continued to listen to God and finally understand that leaders earn their right to speak by listening. Habakkuk finally understand the reason why God did what He was going to do.

We as a leader, need to learn to listen before we speak, so that we can earn our right to be heard. Leaders who refuse to listen will over time lose their influence among their followers. By listening, leaders gain so much more than privilege to speak
1. They gain insight about people
2. They connect with the speaker
3. They earn their right to speak
4. They become relevant
5. They understand the key to speaker’s heart
6. They identify
7. They gain authority
8. They learn.

God gave every one of us one mouth and two ears not by accident, He wants us to listen more than to speak. Remember: When you speak, nothing you say will teach you anything. Only when you listen – to God and to others – will you gain understanding.

Blessed be the name of the Lord Jesus Christ.

Is happily ever after for real?

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Nahum 3:18-19

We have heard many fairy tales ended with “and they live happily ever after” especially in bedtime stories such as Snow White and Cinderella. Unfortunately, real life is not fairytale. There is no such thing as ‘happily ever after’ either in family, business, even in bigger scope such as government and politic. There need to be ongoing improvement, correction/changes required as well as grooming future generation to take on the baton to even just achieve the status quo. Those leaders who fail to plan, they fail to plan. We’ve seen many situation in even most advanced countries who faced degradation after degradation such as ancient kingdom of Babel (now Iraq), ancient kingdom of Persia and Media (now Iran), ancient kingdom of Greece, ancient kingdom of Egypt whereby hardly any trace of their past glories are hardly noticeable now.

In Nahum 3:18-19, we learn why nation such as Niniveh fails before God. The former king of Assyria who repented during prophet Jonah’s fails to reproduce other leaders who can shepherd his people and preserve the moral standard that has been set by him during the time of repentance. Thus the people of Assyria were scattered like sheep without a shepherd.

Our abilities to influence is limited by our abilities to lead and reproduce other leaders. We can minister certain limited amount of people with limited amount of time. Therefore great leaders don’t spend but invest their time in other leaders. We can see this in action especially during Jesus ministry on earth. Jesus didn’t come to earth and just perform miracle ministry city after city. He didn’t just go around land of Judea to preach sermon after sermon. Jesus also focused on raising up leaders. Book of Acts recorded there were 120 leaders whom Jesus groomed (to continue his ministry on earth) waiting for the outpouring of Holy Spirit. Among these 120 leaders, there were 12 apostles who spread the gospels to the end of the earth and turned the world upside down with Gospel of Kingdom of God. Jesus spend 3 years in His ministry and His influence is still felt until now 2000 years aftee His death. That’s why Jesus is called King of Kings, the Mighty One!

Let us improve our leadership abilities time and time again and build others to continue our legacy here on earth. After we pass away, it doesn’t matter how much wealth or succes we acquired but ehat matters is do we leave any legacies especially those who bring glory to the Kingdom of God. Learn to lead as Jesus lead.

Glory to the King of Kings and Lord of Lords, Jesus Christ.

Stay Focused On Your Calling

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Micah 7

David is one of the famous if not the most famous king in Israel. In his time both the 10 Northern tribes of Israel was united with Judah and Benjamin and become complete kingdom of Israel. He successfully subdued many surrounding nations and made other smaller nations tributary to the kingdom of Israel. He wrote many psalms and is one of greatest worship leader in the bible. Acts 13:36 even recorded that David served his own generation by the will of God, he was a man after God’s own heart. Yet despite all that, David failed miserably when he lost his cause, when he was in the state of over-the-top, he was subdued by his own lust! David stole Bathsheba from his husband Uriah, who ironically was one of David’s top and most loyal soldiers! This mistake is not unique to David alone, when leaders lost their cause, they become self-serving and wrongly motivated. They become a big stumbling block to others due to their influences and high standing in their communities.

Micah 7:3-4 has spoken about the similiar situation, leaders who become self-serving and seeking their own desires compared to the interest of the people they served. These leaders have become briers and thorns in the eyes of God and caused the judgment of God fell upon Israel. When leaders fail to perform on their duties, their followers suffer as well.

Never lose your cause as a leader or don’t lead at all. When you as a leader lose your cause, you are easily distracted by you own selfish desire and make stupid mistakes repeatedly until you found a worthy cause again. The only solution to this is given by Paul in Philippians 3:13‭-‬14: “Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended: but this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before,  I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus.” Don’t be focused on our past glories but instead always focus on our calling of God in Christ Jesus. Godly leaders never retire but they re-fire!

Blessed be the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, Amen!

Forgive but not forget

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Jonah 4

In the climax scene of Captain America, we finally understand the true motive of the main villain, Colonel Helmut Zemo, which is to cause a rift from within The Avengers. Zemo understand that Steve Rogers a.k.a. Captain America loyalty to Bucky (which is shown in the movie by him always protecting his friend at all cost) and use it by showing the video to Tony Starks a.k.a Iron Man that it was Bucky who actually killed his parents (under mind control from HYDRA) also adding the information that Captain was actually aware of this situation. This caused Tony to be furious and wanted to kill Bucky but Captain step in and help friend. Captain and Bucky finally has upper hand against Iron Man.

In the other scene, T’Challa a.k.a. Black Panther actually followed Tony and also in the same place. He caught Zemo and was able to subdue him. Zemo was the one who was responsible in the death of T’Challa father, T’Chaka, the chief of Wakanda. Zemo attempts suicide but is stopped by T’Challa and takes him in alive, saying that he doesn’t want revenge to get the better of him. What an irony that Tony was unable to forgive Bucky, who was unaware of his actions and consequences but T’Challa was able to forgive Zemo who was truly responsible for the murder.

From the last chapter of Jonah we can see the low level of love in the heart of human (even when that man is chosen man of God such as Jonah) compared to the ‘huge’ love of God. We finally understand that the reason for Jonah hesistancy to preach to the people of Niniveh was not because it was hard to do so physically but rather because of his personal hatred against them.

Jonah’s reason for running was that, quite simply, he did not like the Assyrians. Assyria was an idolatrous, proud, and ruthless nation bent on world conquest and had long been a threat to Israel. When God sent Jonah as a missionary to the capital, Nineveh, the prophet balked. At the end of his story, Jonah specifies his reason for resistance: “That is why I was so quick to flee to Tarshish. I knew that you are a gracious and compassionate God, slow to anger and abounding in love, a God who relents from sending calamity” (Jonah 4:2). In other words, Jonah wanted Nineveh to be destroyed. He felt they deserved God’s judgment. Jonah didn’t want to see God’s mercy extended to his enemies, and he knew in his heart that God’s intention was to show mercy. Jonah discovered that God’s salvation is available to all who repent, not just to the people of Jonah’s choosing.

Compared to God’s love, our love is too shallow, way too low to worth comparing. Even Iron Man wasn’t able to forgive someone who did something out of his will, similar to Jonah who wasn’t able to forgive the people of Niniveh whom the Bible written couldn’t discern between their right hand and left hand (meaning gullible). This doesn’t mean that we follow their example but it means we need to upgrade the standard of our love to those of God. Jesus taught us that whoever smite us on our right cheek, turn to him the other also, whosoever compel us to go one mile go with him twain. I hope this doesn’t translate in us being stupid and gullible but rather for us to understand the power of forgiveness in our life so that hatred doesn’t have a foothold in our life and we can truly experience real freedom in our life which God has prepared in store.

Forgive (but not forget) others as the Father has forgiven all of our transgressions.

Blessed be the name of the Lord Jesus Christ, Amen!